Last Thursday, I woke up and decided randomly to have a 'yes' day with my kids. With the move and the unpacking and the setting up the house and all of the other stuff that comes along with that, I felt like I had been saying 'no' to my kids way too much lately. No, I can't play right now. I'm busy. No, we can't go get ice cream. I've got to unpack these boxes. No, you can't paint. It'll make too big of a mess and I am trying to clean. And so on, and so forth. I felt like I was being such a boring mom. So I woke up that day and said, "Today I am saying yes!" I told the kids I would say yes to whatever they wanted, within reason, for the whole day. Now, my kids are still very young and they didn't quite understand to the full extent what this meant. They didn't take full advantage of the situation, in my opinion. I am sure when we do this again (and we will do this again!) when they are older, it will be a bit different. That said, we had a whole lot of fun that day. We went to a couple parks, we had french fries and milk shakes for lunch, we painted, we picked wild flowers, we danced, we read lots of books, we had ice cream (okay, it was frozen yogurt, but they couldn't tell the difference!) after dinner. I didn't say no to one request and it was really great for all of us. I felt so light and happy at the end of the day and I could tell my kids had benefited, as well. The energy around the house felt cheerful and light. I will remember that feeling the next time I am about to say no to something for no good reason. Most of the time, saying yes is way more fun, gets many more laughs, a lot more kisses and hugs, and everyone is a whole lot happier. And happy is good.
(I did take away those weird little gummy hamburgers and hide them in my purse before the kids saw them. I wasn't sure I wanted to say yes to those. Also, they are still in my purse.)
xoxo, nora bird