Thursday, May 15, 2014

outfit of the day(bird): love thyself as thy neighbor

 



skirt ~ Forever 21
shirt ~ thrifted
shoes ~ Target
necklace ~ b. (a resale shop)
watch ~ gift
 
I used to be obsessed with my body and my weight – for a while. My family has the tendency to obsess about things; so when I obsessed, I really obsessed. Like, a bowl of frozen peas is an acceptable dinner, or don’t let boys see me eat because they’ll think I’m a pig obsessed. It was a little ridiculous, and I am so happy I no longer feel or act that way. But it was a long time in the making.
Today I was in the gym, on a bosu ball doing bicep curls. I glanced in the mirror and saw myself from the side view. I flexed my butt and thought to myself, why did I ever think my big butt was ugly? And then I gave myself a proverbial pat on the back (butt?) to congratulate myself for thinking that. I mean, are there things I would change about my body? Of course. Am I willing to give a lot up in order to change those things? Nope. If that were the case, I would just stop eating that whole baguette dipped in olive oil every Saturday morning for breakfast. (If I let the kids have a bite, that means I didn’t eat the whole thing myself.)
These days I work out, but not too much. I eat healthy most days, and some days I eat whole baguettes. Weekends and occasional week days I will have a few drinks. Some weekends I will have more than a few. And on those weekends, some days I will eat three Taco Bell bean burritos at 2 in the morning. (If I let Chris have a bite, that means I didn’t eat three burritos myself). But I have learned not to obsess. Because it’s a slippery slope that I certainly don’t want to go down. Maybe it’s age, or maybe it’s just that I stopped worrying about it so much, but I am happy with myself. And on those days I’m not, I just eat a baguette.


24 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. Your attitude is admirable and displays the wisdom that sometimes comes with age.

    Like you, I was obsessive as a child but learned to temper it in adulthood. Balance is the key. It's okay to indulge in food and other pleasures if we mostly eat and live well. We shouldn't deprive ourselves, as long as we don't overindulge.

    BTW, your outfit here is stunning. It reflects both style and confidence.

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  2. I was exactly the same way! I am much better now and I do think it comes with age. I have my moments, but overall as long as I'm 80% healthy / 20% naughty (hello - wine and popcorn chicken last night) I am happy. I have a husband that loves me just the way I am, healthy kids, and an overall great life. I try to focus on that and the fact that I'm still hanging in there for almost 44 :-) I think you look strong, healthy, and beautiful yourself!

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  3. Skinny doesn't = happy just as chubby doesn't = unhappy. I belive if you are happy and content with the way you look (and are resonably healthy) then that's all that counts. Nobody has a perfect body.

    ~Cheryl
    http://snaps-of-ginger.blogspot.com/

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  4. It sounds like you now have a healthy outlook about eating/working out! I think it's important to eat something if you truly want it...depriving yourself usually winds up backfiring :)

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    Bugsy's Box Giveaway!

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  5. Good for you! I think you look great! These are good words of advice for everyone. Even if you aren't happy where you're at, be happy with your body and work on changing it. No body hating!

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  6. ooh love that flowy skirt girl and those leopard wedges are just fab!!! and keep at it girl u will get there with your health goals :) one day at a time!

    XO meghan
    citrus fashion

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  7. Preach!! Love this post!!

    Love the skirt too! :)

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  8. Good for you! I still struggle with this and I am glad that you brought it up. This is especially so for me who just had a baby. I am so anxious to lose all that baby weight. I have to keep telling myself that it took nine months to get it that way, it's going to take a while to get it back. It's hard not to compare. And I STILL don't like to eat in front of other people. I think you are beautiful and a great mom for sharing a yummy baguette. ;-)

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  9. I love this outfit, it looks absolutely grand on you! Know what looks even better? Your healthy attitude and shining spirit.
    Thank you for your comment this morning; you are 100% correct!

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  10. I think this is one of my favorite outfits of yours! I love how simple, but so chic it is! Dude, that is so awesome. We all tend to obsess over things. Sometimes, I feel like I have so many things that I am working on at once, I get frustrated when I don't see progress with one of them ASAP. I too used to be really obsessed with my weight, and although I am still trying to get in better shape, I totally allow myself some ice cream and pizza because why not?! :D good post!

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  11. Yay for loving your body. Just today I read an old post I made on this same subject.

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  12. Learning to love your body is hard, and I'm so glad you are at a great place with that! (and obviously you have a rockin' bod)! The thing that's so frustrating for me is that I did love myself and my body, I ate what I wanted (in moderation) and then I lost it all... I lost myself for awhile and I'm getting back to this place. I honestly have been happier since I wrote that post a few weeks back, not allowing it to hold me back anymore... and I've been working out even harder since then too. I saw myself in the mirror at the gym last night also while doing bicep curls and while normally I would think ewww, my armpit "fat" is gross or my thighs are too big, I smiled and thought, this is me and I am happy :)

    Adorable outfit! Love those leopard wedges, they are just too good!

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  13. Pretty, lovely, kind and wise you!!! I wish I lived near you, you'd be the ideal friend, I just know!!!!x

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  14. I spent years dealing with body issues. I'm in a good place - and so glad to hear you are too (cuz you've got a pretty great butt!). :)

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  15. Hey girl!! How are you? Happy Belated Mother's Day. You look great and I love your attitude. I think we are too hard on ourselves...let's all have baguettes and olive oil!!

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  16. this is a struggle for me too. always nice to hear others that struggle so I know i'm not alone! moderation is hard but so important! and LOVE the tied tee!

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  17. It seems since I can remember myself I always had a big butt. I very quickly started to have womanly shapes even if I was too far away from being woman. I was struggling through my teens about my looks and then in , I think, in my twenties I understood, hey, I'm not too bad, because there's man who seem to like me for what I'm. Even with my big butt. And then when I met my fiance everything just cleared up more, that actually everything is in my head and sometimes it just us who doing that damage, because everyone else is as well thinking about their problems. You look amazing. I wish I could pull off this maxi skirt look like you do. It feels like I'm too petite for maxi, because in shops they' re way too long for me even with heels.

    xoxo Ra

    http://www.ramona-strikeapose.blogspot.ie/

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  18. My theory: Self concept is refined in our forty's. We accept ourselves more and still hope for changes and betterment. But we tend to get more and more accepting in mid years. Now in my 60's I wonder if I have any further refinement to grasp. lol We are all on separate levels progressing as one. and ...thanks for the long legs compliment. My legs are not long, they aren't I wear regular length jeans. My upper body is so thick and full it make my thinner legs look long, I think ... hmmm, but THANK YOU!! ♥, Renae

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  19. Beautiful pics and post! Yes, we should all love and treat ourselves as we do those near and dear to us. T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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  20. I just love black and white. You look so pretty. I used to buy my kids candy, then I would eat most of it because I didn't want them to OD on sugar

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  21. Such a cute outfit and you look very confident in it. Can I have your hair, pretty please with sugar on top? You are so right about that attitude towards your body, to exercise and eating. We have to find the balance where we are still living and enjoying life and have other things to think about that what our bodies look like. It's not easy. We live in a culture that encourages us to obsess and criticise and spend money to fix ourselves. Keep on being awesome you! There's no commandment that says though shalt not covet thy blog neighbours hair, right?

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  22. I love this! And that just reminded me, I need to go to the gym! Also your boys are amazing! It was so much fun meeting them last weekend!
    But in all seriousness, my friend and I had that conversation yesterday, and I know I want to workout to be strong and have stamina. Not to be skinny.
    Zhenya
    http://beingzhenya.com

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  23. Love this easy breezy look! And more power to your health & fitness goals!

    Rebecca
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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