Thursday, March 6, 2014

outfit of the day(bird): mothers and sons




jeans ~ Ross
shirt ~ Marshalls
earrings ~ Forever 21
shoes ~ thrifted

my son is hormonal. like teenage girl hormonal. he's almost as emotional as i am, and i don't quite know what to do about it. you see, i was raised in a family of all girls...i know how to deal with hormonal girls because i am one. i mean, don't get me wrong, when my daughter turns 14, i might forget how to really handle hormonal girls, but at least i'll have an idea. boys...now that's another story.

to be honest, i assumed hormones didn't kick in for boys until they were 13, and even then, i was thinking it would be a completely different type of hormones...not this emotional, sulky, stompy kind that i am dealing with right now. and apparently, mom is the main person to take your emotions out on, if you're a kid.

and i have to tell you, i am not a thick-skinned person. i take every little door slam, every single eye roll, and especially every single brush off very personally. i know i need to get over that because i know it's just begun. but for now, it sucks...because i used to be the one who made everything better, but now sometimes i'm the one who makes everything worse, and i hate that.

so for now, i will take every single moment that he still believes i am funny, i am cool, and that i can make everything better. they may not come as often as they used to, but they are there. someday soon he'll laugh at my jokes again.
xo,
megan bird

25 comments:

  1. Don't forget all the nice things they said on your birthday - you are the queen of Moms, as beautiful as a rose! (That was close, right?)

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  2. He is probably even more confused and bothered by this than you are, and at that age who doesn't think that the whole world is messed up and it's probably their fault? Both my stepsons (MY boys! MINE, lol) started that at around the same age; the oldest especially. I finally realised it was at least partly because he desperately wanted to crawl in my lap and hide his face in my shoulder like he used to (a whole two months ago) but he was trying so hard to be an adult that he had to push me away for a while so he could gain the sense of independence so important to healthy development.

    What worked for me was telling him when something he said/did upset me and why. If it was serious enough to warrant consequences then he had to deal with the consequences, but not until I was calm. I also made a practice of telling him "I miss your hugs" and asking for one...this allowed him to have the touch he still needed but to save face by phrasing it in a way that he felt he was doing it for me. I don't know if these things will help you; just remember Momma, it won't last forever.

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  3. My son does not think I am funny at all and tells me this a lot! We were just having this conversation last night. Oh well, they come back eventually. Love that lace top!

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  4. Oh man that has to be SO hard, I can't imagine.

    P.S. Come enter the Moscoeworks giveaway!

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  5. i view it as, this is the first time he is having all of these feelings, and while we are used to changes in our body/life, etc, they are intensified even more for him. sometimes, they feel like they are the only ones going through whatever emotion it is. while we would let something roll off our backs, they can't see it that way, yet. it'll get better!

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  6. Aww! I'm sorry. I don't have kids but I do have nieces and one is 11 now. One day she didn't let me kiss her like normal at school. I got the forhead.... It was a punch in the gut. Thankfully, this only happens at school right now. Everywhere else I'm still cool Aunt Cheryl that she loves to hang with (for now)

    ~Cheryl
    http://snaps-of-ginger.blogspot.com/

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  7. That has to be really hard on both of you! Just know that he won't feel that way forever and things will get better. PS Love that lace top!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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  8. Im so sorry your son is going through this phase :( I really like your top today, so pretty!

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  9. Oh man! I'm sorry it's been rough! I feel that kids can act like that towards their moms because they know no matter what you will always love them so even when it's tough remember that! You definitely look fabulous though! Those jeans look amazing on you!

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  10. Aww, I'm sorry he's in that phase already - I dread that day but I have some years yet on that. You are one of the most awesome mom's I know so I hope it's just a short lived phase he's going through and that he'll be back to finding you as awesome as you are all the time again!

    And in other news - the top is fabulous.

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  11. That's a tough phase whether it's boy or girl. Kids definitely take out the majority of their feelings on us moms. It's just part of the job even if it does hurt. On a happy note you look fabulous, but you always look fabulous so I am not telling you anything new, ha ha!

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  12. I have two sons and I am not an emotional person. But I can tell you that this is totally normal. Each kid is different and they all go through phases. I miss this kind of hormonal when comparing it to my teenage son's hormones. Woofta.

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  13. I remember my brother being the same growing up. I don't know what it is like from a parent perspective but I know that my brother reacted best knowing that we were there for him no matter what. I was the screaming one and he was the sulker so we helped balance each other out. Just love him through it, he doesn't know what's going on with him either.

    -Chelsea
    chelsandthecity.blogspot.com

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  14. Awwww! It will get better. My younger brother clashed with my Mom at every opportunity, but older older brother was always a Momma's boy, and still is at 28 years old.
    -ash
    www.stylizedwannabe.blogspot.com

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  15. This makes me a little nervous since I just had a little boy. I'm definitely not looking forward to the hormonal days! Loving the lace top!

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  16. I hope it gets better!! I love this lace top on you!

    xo,
    Angela

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  17. You look amazing! My oldest son went through a moody phase, too, in his pre-teens/early teens. Trust me, they outgrow it! He's 30 now, and we are great friends with our adult children. :) T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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  18. You look gorgeous! I have to agree with what Jacqueline said and will save my typing fingers by just saying, "yeah that". My son is now 19 and we have always been close but he still went through the usual bombardment of teenaged hormones. It isn't fun for anyone. Speaking of sons, I tested out my potential outfit for Monday, and it included a black knit hat. I started to laugh because my son often wears a black knit hat and well, he looks a bit like me so when I put one on I thought oh I have to get a photo of the two of us wearing hats!

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  19. I am agreeing about both things with the prior posters. 1- you look gorgeous, love the lace and denim, and 2-it is hard when boys do that, but testosterone is just as challenging as estrogen...he will get better.
    I am thinned skinned too. I hope it helps you are not alone. My son is 25, has a lovely girlfriend, so consider it just a stage..
    XX, Elle
    http://mydailycostume.com/

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  20. Totally understand and sympathize with the boy hormonal thing!! x

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  21. I have found that sport is great for getting rid of the moods swings that happens in the teenage years particularly boys. It also makes them tired which makes them sleep more which they also need. I also got a dog during this phase and I found it great. Boys do not communicate like girls but the rough and tumble with a dog seemed like a tonic. Dogs are also very perceptive and know when you need a cuddle sometimes I think boys just need a cuddle which obviously they won't take from their mum but will from a dog.

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  22. #1. love the leopard detail on your heels = great subtly. #2. your son is exhibiting all of the normal signs of a healthy young boy that will lead to a great man and father. In my psychological analysis of the situations I've witness {bet ya didn't know I was a backyard shrink? lol} ie my bro and my cousin (cousin was an only child of a widowed mom). They both drove their Mom's nuts in their tweens and teens and they turned out as great men, fathers etc. It is healthy for a son to repel his Mom, it is. "mark my little words". LOVE TO YOU DEAR FRIEND!

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  23. not being a mother myself, i love reading your blog and seeing everything through your eyes - your interactions with your kids and also how much you truly notice their moods and hormones and all the other little things. it's inspiring how much you care <3

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  24. How old is your son? I am sure he will grow out of it and among the really hormonal, attitude days, you will appreciate the better days and his smiles even more. You look great. This Outfit is so simple yet totally chic. =)

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