Tuesday, March 25, 2014

outfit of the day(bird): Instabreak

shirt~ TJ Maxx
jeans~ Jessica Simpson
boots~ DSW
necklace~ gift from Megan
hat~ knit by my mom

My husband told me the other day, as I was checking my Instagram feed, that I had a problem. An Instagram problem. He said it jokingly, but I think he maybe meant it as a bit more than a joke. And, while I think saying I have a problem is a bit harsh, I do spend quite a bit of time on what is definitely my favorite social media site. I love seeing little snippets of of my friend's lives and the pretty photos people post. I really enjoy sharing little bits of my life on Instagram, too. I find it fun; sharing what I ate for dinner, or if my kids did something particularly adorable or hilarious, or a new outfit, or just something I find pretty. I try to be honest and not stage my photos, except maybe food shots which, I think, should look pretty. And obviously, I don't share photos of my kids fighting or crying, because who wants to see that?  I actually know, in real life or through the blog, most of the people who follow me and that I follow. And I appreciate every like and follow, so I try not to get caught up in feeling bad that I don't have a ton of followers or get a ton of likes or if I follow someone and they don't follow back or if a certain blogger follows Megan and not me, but it is tough at times. It can feel like a popularity contest. And, even as an adult who knows better, it can sometimes get to me. Even though I know it doesn't define me. And even though I know that I have friends and family that love me no matter what, even if they don't like a silly photo on my Instagram page. Isn't this age of social media so strange? I am kind of happy that none of this was even invented when I was a kid or a high schooler. (Okay, social media, as it's defined today, wasn't even invented until well after I graduated from college. I'm old. Much older than Mark Zuckerberg. With much less money.) Anyway, the point of my rambling is that I have decided to take a (very short) break from Instagram. Because, for one, Jim thinks I am on there too much (even if I disagree) and I feel the need to prove to him that I can step away for a bit. And, secondly, because I just don't want to worry about the little things like follows and likes for a few days. Yep. Just a few days! I am sure I will be back by the end of the week, because I really do enjoy sharing with you guys and seeing a little of what you're up to every day. So, if you follow me on Instagram and notice an absence of my photos or likes from me on your feed, now you know why! I'll be back soon!

xoxo, nora bird


  1. Instagram is my favorite too, and I totally get what you mean. I feel like I can get caught up in that too, even though I know better. But I like almost all your pics... cuz I love peeking into your life. :)

  2. I must admit I have not yet been lured into the all encompassing world of Instagram. I am too busy trying to maintain some kind of presence on Facebook and Twitter (the latter of which I barely understand and use). With blogging there are too many platforms to maintain. Maybe I will change my mind later, but for now it is too much for me.

    Loving the boots. It looks like you guys still have as much snow as us.


  3. Haha, I think your husband and my boyfriend would get along well ... for the reason that my boyfriend has mentioned multiple times that I am on Instagram too much. But I have to point out to him that he is on Facebook all the time, so really what's the difference? Also, I agree, it can be hard to not feel sad when you follow someone and interact with them constantly but never have the follow or like in return, but I try to not let it bother me. Also, sometimes I feel like I took a really cool photo so I might get sad if it doesn't get a lot of likes or comments. <--- Writing that out made me realize that maybe I have a problem too.

    Social media is a weird thing. Great to stay connected and be inspired, but everyone curates their story the way they want, not really the way it is. But you are right, why would I share a moment about my boyfriend and I fighting? Or some friend drama? It isn't what people want to follow or hear about.... but it also doesn't leave much room for an honest environment. I have had to take some Facebook breaks, mostly because I get caught up in comparing myself to others. And that's not right, I shouldn't compare, but sometimes if I'm feeling bad about myself it is so easy to do. Anyway, hopefully you will be back soon and I think it is always a great idea to step away from social media for a bit!

    1. My husband is the same- he moans and says I am on my blog too much and outfit shots are stupid and that's what you see when you google my name. I understand needing to take a step away- I feel I am on here too much! And the lady above, I totally know what you mean, when you really devotedly follow someone and comment and there's never any acknowledgement back. There are some people whose blogs I read and always comment and they used to occasionally comment and now they never bother and I don't know, I just find it a bit sad! Perhaps it's because my blog is rubbish but still, it would be nice for them to say hi once in a while! x

  4. Yeah, my husband gets after me about my social media addictions too! I totally get what you're talking about and like you, I'm kind of thankful this stuff wasn't around when I was in high school! I think taking a break is fine, I'll miss your cute kid pictures, but I totally understand!

    I love your boots - I don't love that we still have to wear boots - but I love your boots anyway!

  5. I can totally relate to this. I do get upset if I'm following a blog friend on Instagram and they won't follow me back, despite me liking and commenting on their photos. But I can't quit it! Facebook, on the other hand, I'm thinking about taking a break from...it does nothing but annoy me lately!

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  6. I probably need an instagram break more than you, lady! Enjoy your social media detox & I look forward to your cute life snippets returning eventually!

  7. Breaks from anything are always good. I had a similar talk with my husband about Call of Duty. And he took a break a couple of months ago. I don't even know that he misses it really (if he does, he isn't acting like it). He has found a lot of better and cooler ways to spend his actual time (like tearing down the walls in the living room to randomly remodel it . . .).

    I got on Instagram randomly last summer and was into it for a couple of weeks. But then I kind of let it fall by the wayside. Other than blogs and Facebook, I am not much into social media. I don't do Twitter (though I have an account) or Instagram (though I have an account) really. I don't know why. I think I just kind of need a balance in my life. I hope you find a good balance for you!

    I can relate to the popularity thing when related to blogging. I get kind of personal about it too. Like when I lose a follower or when a photo I post doesn't get as many votes on Chictopia that I thought it would or when no one comments on a post. It can be discouraging. But at the same time, I ultimately do it for me and it is not my job, so I try not to take it to personally.

    Good luck! And I love your boots!

  8. I need that shirt in my life! NEED. I love this outfit! :D

    I totally feel you lady! Instagram is my favorite, mostly because like you said, little snippets of my friend's lives. It is also the only social media site that Kyle uses too, which makes it more addicting. I tend to scroll through it when I am waiting in line somewhere, or in the bathroom (sorry, tmi) but there are times at the end of the night when I am supposed to be going to sleep, and I am scrolling through it. But hey, there are worse addictions to have! And we are not perfect, we are human :)

  9. Oh very cute hat!
    Very lovely outfit!


  10. I am with Bethie that I will miss the cute pics of the children as I look forward to them every day! I want to have Ben date my niece Emma who was born about the same time. She is in Farmington so not too far away;). I understand the break and the issues with it. Instagram is just a happy place with flowers, cute children, yummy food and flowers!

  11. I love your IG feed! Don't quit! A break from technology can be nice, so enjoy yourself.

  12. A little break, now and then, can be a good thing! Love this top!

  13. A very cute outfit! Love it but feel a bit cold looking at you without a jacket on!
    I have not gotten into Instagram. I am on facebook but mostly ignore it and used an opinion/chat/polling site for a few years but eventually got tired of that too. I'm even getting tired of Pinterest which I was crazy about for awhile. I like blogging best but I know it can still be tempting to get caught up in the popularity contest of it all. Enjoy your instagram break and then get back to it. I think you will know if it is no longer right for you.

  14. gah, that top!! i just bought a similar one at nordstrom, and now i'm wishing i'd followed you to TJ Maxx. So very cute. And as for social media... I wouldn't worry yourself about it too much - if it wasn't instagram it'd be facebook or pinterest or tumblr or flickr -- most of us (girls, anyway!) have our vice :)

  15. I totally get it. It's nice to step away and not thing about the numbers for a while! Enjoy your break :)

  16. This looks so slouchy and adorable! This is why I refuse to get a smartphone - it's near impossible to go back! But you can't miss what you don't have!

  17. Looking lovely, Nora! Those boots are major cool. I've been AWOL from Instagram myself for this last few days... Been so busy at work, I've been distracted. Like you, I hope to return soon, tho'! :) T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

  18. I love instagram too because it really is a fun way to get a glimpse of what's going on in their lives! I'm looking forward to your return, but totally get the need to step back and take a little break. :)


  19. Dying over these boots!!!!!
    Instagram is my favorite social media outlet as well

  20. I love IG too. Enjoy your IG break.

  21. I'm also having a IG fix lately....but it's always great unplug and take a break!


  22. Love love love that top on you!!! You always look so cute!

  23. I use instagram less on the weekends because it's the weekend. The time when I should just be chilling. I'm barely on my phone then. I hope your break is a good one and maybe when you come back you'll have a set schedule for when to be on it. lol


  24. I think we all have an Instagram obsession ... even those who are not bloggers ... it is just such an easy social outlet to get into. It does not require much at all. I try to take breaks here and there but I check it every single day.

    Now about your outfit! Love, love that top! It's gorgeous on you ... and those boots! Love the whole outfit!

  25. Oh I am equally bad with my husband, Nora. Mine seldom complains. However, I will be at the main computer and tell him I am getting off to watch the local news and what do I do? I take my phone with me and get on Ig while I'm suppose to be sharing the news viewing time in the same room with my love. I guess it is a 'woman' thing, that we can multi-task, but ya, I need to not do that. I am feeling tons better today, btw. (hug)

  26. Love the blue tee and gorgeous boots, so pretty against the snowy white!
    I have not started instagram, because I feel it might be a bit too much fun!
    XX, Elle