Monday, March 17, 2014

inspiration monday: the couple that plays together

the inspiration
alyssa miller
megan bird
 


dress, ring ~ Forever 21
shoes ~ vintage, thrifted
jacket ~ Fashionologie

nora bird

 

dress ~ b. (a resale shop)
jacket ~ Fashionologie
boots ~ Shoedazzle
leggings ~ Heartbreaker
chris and i get a lot of comments about how much we go out, and i will admit that even i think it is odd. when we had kids, i never would have thought we'd be able to go out as much as we do. and still to this day, i feel a little bit guilty every time we do, but not guilty enough to not do it.
don't get me wrong, i adore spending time with my kids – i look forward to it. we have created so many great memories as a family and i look forward to so many more. but i also love my chris time. and we are lucky enough to have parents and sisters who love to watch our kids. in fact, both sets of parents will just ask us to watch our kids...we rarely have to ask if they can. oftentimes, chris and i don't even have plans, and the grandparents want the kids, so we have to *gasp* come up with plans!! we have paid a babysitter once, and that was just two weeks ago. two weeks ago in almost nine years of having kids, and we needed a sitter because our whole family happened to be at the same party we were at. so yes, we're lucky.
but some people look down at us, like we party too much, or we're not responsible parents. and i would say this to them...my mom once told me that she loves each and every single one of her daughters...so much (and we all know that). but she told us that in her life, our dad always came first. she knew that there would be a day where we would all move out and need her a little less (that day hasn't come yet), but she always knew that those days when we were gone, our dad would still be there. so she put him, and their relationship, first. and in doing that, we were not less loved as kids, we were not paid less attention to. instead, we learned to look up to two loving parents, who now have been married for 47 years. to see your parents love each other as much as ours do is a blessing for any child. and by spending as much time with chris as i do, i hope that my children will learn the value of a good relationship, and learn what it's like to truly value and respect your partner. and in turn, i hope to be that grandparent who someday is asking if we can watch our grandchildren as much as possible.
xoxo,
megan bird

ps happy st. patty's day!

31 comments:

  1. Great jacket & dress combos--both of you! :) Years ago, when my hubby asked my parents' permission for my hand in marriage (yes, he did!), my father granted it--with one promise: that Mark would ensure we at least went out once a week together as a couple (no kids). We've honored that vow (minus times when we were ill or recuperating from childbirth), and it's kept us going strong for nearly 33 years. :) This post so resonates. :) T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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  2. For what it's worth, I think you're great parents!

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  3. Your mom is a wise woman! I don't think it's bad that parents go out at all either. We need that time to spend with our spouses and connect as a couple. It makes you a better parent. With that said, you both look great as always. The dresses and the jackets are a fabulous combo!

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  4. I feel the same way, actually. It never occurred to me to think you guys went out alone too often! Ed and I actually try to do a trip alone each year (usually over a long weekend - though last year it was for 10 days). It's such a great way to reconnect, and to be reminded that my husband is my most important relationship! I say, good for you!

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  5. I needed to read this - it's a good reminder. I haven't gotten out as much with my hubby since Oliver has been born as I'd like, but we're going to start making it more of a priority now that he's past the newborn stage. Happy couples make happy parents. End of story!

    And you both look super cute!!

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  6. I love both of your colored leather jackets! I think it's great that you guys are able to go out on dates and nurture your relationship!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    JCrew Giveaway!

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  7. Wonderful post info Megan! You and Chris are such a fun couple, I can tell. Thanks for the compliment on my GREEN ensemble. I knew that scarf would make an appearance on St. Patty's, just didn't quite know exactly how. I love the color blend in your's, Megan. I forgot I have green cowgirl boots, dang! I remembered when I saw yours. Nora, sure love your ensemble, as well. HAVE A FAB DAY, k? k. ♥

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  8. OMG. This picture is adorable first of all, and both of your looks are SPOT on. Also, NORA how did I not see your new hair yet?! LOVE IT! Beautiful color on you!

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  9. That is wonderful advice, especially for a new mom like me. Sometimes I find it hard not to put my kiddo before everyone and everything, but I know he will be better off if I remember to make my marriage a priority. Oh and also, you both look fantastic. I like your outfits better than the inspiration!

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  10. You look lovely! Do you want to follow each other? Let me know.
    effortlesslady.blogspot.ca

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  11. ladies, you both look great. i love the colors. i think better than the inspiration.


    xo
    Sam
    http://fabulouspetite.blogspot

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  12. I love the inspiration! It's been WAY too long since Jason and my last vacation alone! It's much needed! Your outfits, little jackets plus flirty dress/tunics are fabulous! Great looks! I will be coping, I'm sure. :-) Thanks, Tammy http://wildruffle.com

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  13. I've heard that same thing and I think that spending time with your husband/wife is SOOOOO important! I think that as long as you are spending quality time with your kids, there is nothing wrong with also spending quality time with your hubby! And I'm sure that your kids are like mine--they LOOOOOVE going to Auntie/Nana's house. So it's not like they're neglected! Some people should spend less time judging other peoples lives and more time living their own.

    On a style note, you both look great in these pretty little dresses!

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  14. I love the color of both of your jackets! They are so cute!

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  15. You both look super cute! So jealous of the fact that you are tight less in these pics!

    I have a friend who gets crap from people about going out a lot too, and it totally sucks. I honestly think that if you put your relationship first, you will be happier, better people. Therefore making yourselves better to those around you, like your kids. :)

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  16. your both look great. I'm happy to hear you and Chris get to go out a lot.

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  17. I think everyone is different. Some people think just because you get older means you cannot have fun. I think it's fine what you guys do and it's your business. You two look great btw. I love the colourful jackets! /Madison xx

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  18. Your Mother is wise. I'm the same way. My Mother in law has only my Husband, me and our two kids. He's an only child. She takes our kids EVERY weekend, not because we need her to but because she loves them and wants to spend time with them. You have to be you and have "you" time as well as "together" time to be good, effective, functional parents who are also good role models. I think you're doing a swell job!
    -Ash
    www.stylizedwannabe.blogspot.com

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  19. Hey, love the bright coloured leather!!!!! I think you make an excellent point. So many couples can lose their relationship if they don't make time for it. You obviously care for and nurture your children and they can only see a good model, especially if that's what they've always seen!!! I'll link up later. I scheduled the post as I'm out tonight but set the time too late and can't change it on my phone!!! X

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  20. Love both of the looks!!!

    My parents do that same thing for my sister's kids. I think it's important to make a point to spend time one-on-one like you do. Let the criticizers criticize. If it wasn't that they find something else :-)

    ~Cheryl
    http://snaps-of-ginger.blogspot.com/

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  21. Great looks :) thanks for hosting, new follower, found you over at Renae's blog.. linked back and put your hop on my blog hop page too ...

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  22. I like both of your interpretations better than the inspiration photo. I like a bit (or a lot) of color in an outfit. And I love the boots (I miss tall boots :-(). When I was a kid, I stayed at my grandparent's house every weekend and I loved it.When my husband and I lived in the same neighborhood as my in-laws, we took every advantage we could to have them sit. In fact, my MIL flew down to stay with the kids so Rob and I could go to Vegas last weekend. Don't get me wrong. I missed my kids but it was so nice to have that uninterrupted alone time. I forgot how much I missed the spouse alone time.

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  23. I think it's important for parents to go out often so they don't begin to resent each other. Just keep doing what you do. It's been working. :-)

    Mo

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  24. ohhhh hey, i'd never heard of alyssa miller, but she just might be my new fashion inspiration - that girl is a stunner, right? love how you pulled off the look with colorful leather :)

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  25. as always you two did a great job
    love all of the color Nora, but that little polka dot dress is pretty darn cute as well Megan.
    Brett

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  26. Good for you and Chris! Don't let anyone make you feel like you can't spend time with your husband!

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  27. Why do celebrities look like they just "throw something on" and manage to just look effortless and cool? Great inspiration look!

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  28. You both look amazing! Loving the brightness you both added to the look!

    And I think it is great that you go out with Chris so much! Your mom's advice is spot on, your partner always has to be first, because they are the one relationship that is supposed to last forever. Kids grow up and "get their own lives" and if you're not still over the moon with your husband when they move out, then what's the point? Trust me, it is better to grow up knowing your parents adore each other than to grow up wondering when they'll stop pretending they do.

    -Chelsea
    chelsandthecity.blogspot.com

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  29. This is great words of advice! I get so swept away in starting a new business and the kids that my husband gets put on the back burner. Thanks for posting about this! -emily

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  30. Megan what you wrote is truly beautiful and so true. Just because you are a parent, you don't have to sacrifice being in a relationship or having date nights. Unfortunately Vivian is too young, my husband works way too much, my parents live in the States and my in-laws all work so for us date nights are very far in between. But I certainly appreciate it when they happen, whether with the baby in tow or not.

    You and Nora did a great job with this too. I wish I could have played along since I certainly have a few Short Printed Dresses and some Colorful Leather Jackets. You both inspire me to try this in the future. =)

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