Friday, February 15, 2013

outfit of the day(bird): what was i thinking?




hat and sweater~ both are super old/don't remember where i got them!
coat~ hand-me-down from megan
leggings~ Heartbreaker
boots~ gift from my mother-in-law

so, i mentioned on wednesday that i will be in mexico one week from today. and yes, i am very, very excited. but i am also completely anxious and freaking out. why? because we are not taking our kids with us. jim's parent's are coming to stay at our house and take care of mimi and ben while jim and i are away. and i know they will be amazingly well cared for. jim's parents are awesome and ben and mimi will be in great hands. that is not why i am nervous. i have just never been away from them for a whole weekend. and ben is still so little! we are going to mexico for the wedding of some dear friends and i really don't want to miss it, but a big part of me really does not want to go. we booked the trip when i was delusional pregnant, and i didn't really think about how young ben would still be and how hard it would be to be away for a whole weekend. what was i thinking, people??? i have literally been lying awake almost every night the past week just thinking about leaving and crying. i'm a mess. i keep thinking that ben won't remember me when we get home or that mimi will have had so much fun with her grandparents that she won't want me anymore. i know these fears are irrational, but i cannot help it. i have told jim multiple times that i can't go and that i will give my ticket to someone else. of course, i cannot do this. and we can't really afford for me to not go at this point. so, i will go. and we will have tons of fun, i am sure. and i will miss my children terribly. and, hopefully they will miss me, but not too much. and hopefully they will remember me and want me back when i get home. i know time away will be good for both jim and i and for the kids. i know it is healthy for all of us. that said, if anyone has any anxiety meds they want to give me for the plane ride, that would be much appreciated!

happy friday! i hope you all have a great weekend!
xoxo, nora bird

26 comments:

  1. that coat is SOOOO cute!! how fun that you are going to mexico! but I'm sure it will be hard to leave too - hopefully once you get there you'll be able to relax and not worry!!

    ReplyDelete
  2. love the red coat in the snow! I dont have kids yet, but I can imagine.. if you have Skype on your phone, you could utilize that. hope the trip goes well. have fun!!
    Xo,
    Jewel

    ReplyDelete
  3. Nora, even though I don't have children I completely understand your anxiety about leaving your children. I am considering cancelling my trip to Hawaii and have told rob that we are not going several times. I mean it. Leaving home and pets causes me to be anxious especially after the pet lady last time. We have since used our other cat lady and I am better about the situation but I would rather stay home and not be anxious. I hope it gets better. You are adorable and so honest about real life situations...it makes you more adorable. dawn xo

    ReplyDelete
  4. Aww Nora! I hope you're able to set your fears aside once you're in Mexico so that you're able to relax and enjoy the trip!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    JCrew giveaway!

    ReplyDelete
  5. We've done a weekend away every year since we first had kids, and it has been the best thing we have ever done for our marriage. It's really hard to leave, and I'm always ready to come back, but the time away with Ed has always been great for us.

    We're leaving them for 9 days next month, and I'm looking forward to it, but also dreading leaving them for so long.

    Have fun!

    And cutest coat ever.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Cute outfit! I love that red coat!


    -Vogue&Heels
    vogueandheels.wordpress.com

    ReplyDelete
  7. Aw Nora - everything will be fine! I'm sure you will enjoy your weekend away, have tons of fun, and everything will be perfect when you get back :) That red coat is SO cute on you by the way!

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

    ReplyDelete
  8. red is TOTALLY your color! love this!

    xo,Taylor
    iLikeMyClothesTaylored.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  9. Aww, you're a good mama! It just shows how much you love your kids! I am sure in the end you will have an amazing time!

    ReplyDelete
  10. I don't have kids, so I can't say that I know exactly how you feel, but I do understand. I am sure everything will go super well though, and your kids will be so excited to see you when you are home again!

    ReplyDelete
  11. I totally feel you. I went to Mexico with my ex for 5 days when my younger son was about one and I was so nervous, but as my mom told me--you can only be nervous until the plane takes off. Then you can only have faith that your kids will be fine and that you have all that you have with you, anything you forgot about is too late. Enjoy your trip!

    ReplyDelete
  12. Oh dear! Nora, get some meds from your doc. They have special meds for nervous fliers and travelers. I had a co-worker that would take a special med that knocks her completely out. I once flew next to a Southwest Airline employee and she LITERALLY slept from tarmac to tarmac in a hypnosis trance. She slept mid sentence and work up when we landed and admitted, "Oh I must have dozed off" What? Dozed? I was saying to myself: You konked out and was snorring in two seconds! Your post was fun to read. Why did you change hats? I like the white one. And yes I am going to be 60. I bet I am younger than your parents - huh?

    ReplyDelete
  13. Awww, love that coat! I know what you mean and how difficult it must be for you. If you don't go now though, you honestly never will until they are out of the house. This is the truth. My children are 8,7 and 5 and we have never left them for longer than an overnight. I have always shared those same fears you have and have thwarted every plan to go away for a long weekend with my husband. It's not rational thinking at all, but my heart keeps getting in the way :)

    ReplyDelete
  14. Ok I am an old fuddy. I thought you had on a white hat in the first frame and then change it to a black hat. What was I thinking? Don't mind me. See I can blame my age. hahahahaha.

    ReplyDelete
  15. You look awesome - I love your coat!

    Kate xo petite-adventures.blogspot.ca

    ReplyDelete
  16. Have fun on your vacation! I'm sure you'll end up having a great time, and the kiddos will have fun with your family.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Oh, I'm so sorry to hear of your conflicted emotions. Get yourself to a health food store or Whole Foods and buy some Rescue Remedy. It's holistic and non-addictive, non-harmful, you know all that stuff.

    Sue xo

    ReplyDelete
  18. Yes happy Friday! Thanks so much for visiting Pirate Hart!

    Love the red coat!

    see you soon,

    Pirate Hart
    www.piratehart.com

    ReplyDelete
  19. Mexico sounds amazing! Start tanning ,haha. Love that red coat, it's so snazzy.

    <3 Cambria
    jupefashion.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  20. Mexico?!!! how fun. i'm so jealous. loving that red jacket. it's fabulous!

    http://spinning-threads.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  21. Mexico sounds totally fun! I can see how hard it would be to leave your little ones though. Hang in there girl! You'll have fun once you get there and they'll be so happy to see you when you get back! :)
    You look so chic! Love this red peacoat. THose ruffle sleeves are darling.
    -Jessi
    haircutandgeneralattitude.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  22. you'll be just fine and they will be too! enjoy yourself. i love your red coat!
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

    ReplyDelete
  23. This is a super outfit, you really shine in it.

    Nora, you're going through what all parents do...and it's because you ARE such a great Mom. Do you have an old sweatshirt or tshirt that smells like you? (Not in a groady way of course, hehe) Make a couple of small pillows with it to tuck in with them; Momma's scent, especially at such young ages, really soothes and comforts children and knowing you are doing something special for them will help you feel better as well.

    Sip some chamomile tea and remind yourself that you'll be better for recharging your batteries and they will learn they can trust others to meet their needs and survive independently of you; very important lessons for children to learn.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Your coat is sooooo adorable! I love the style and color :)

    Sylvia
    www.sylvialovespink.com

    ReplyDelete
  25. love your outfit. Nice combination of red, black and white. I want your red coat :)
    http://thirtysomethingchic.wordpress.com/

    ReplyDelete