Thursday, January 10, 2013

outfit of the day(bird): the perfect body




earrings~ aether design, gift from jim
sweater~ Old Navy
shirt~ b. (a resale shop)
leggings~ Target
boots~ Alloy

i recently read an article about drew barrymore and how she has not yet lost her baby weight. the article was saying this like it was a bad thing. this made me angry because, why should she have lost the weight yet? her child was born at the end of september, making her not yet four months old. ben was born in august and i most certainly have not lost all of my baby weight. and i've had a whole month longer than drew! this got me to thinking...i have basically been beating myself up about this very fact since i got home from the hospital. now, i know that i am by no means overweight, but when i look in the mirror and see my flabby belly, i feel a bit glum. when i try on an old pair of jeans that don't fit quite right (or at all) anymore, i get a little bummed out. i decide i need to eat less, work out more...i need to get back to that pre-baby body...and fast! but why do i feel like i need to look like heidi klum did six weeks after giving birth when i never looked like heidi klum to begin with? i will never look like heidi klum. and i will never look like i did before i had kids. and that's okay! i have two amazing children that i carried and nourished and grew in this body. my body has done amazing things and i have the stretch marks and scars to prove it. i am so proud of what i have done...i just need to try and remember that more often. of course, i still want my beach body and i will still work hard to get it. but i have to remember that it takes lots of time and hard work and it's not going to happen overnight. it took me nine months to grow these babies, after all. i should give myself at least that much time to lose what i gained and firm what got flabby, right? i will also try to remember that there is no such thing as the perfect body...and as long as my family and i are happy and healthy, that is all that really matters. that is perfect.

xoxo, nora bird

31 comments:

  1. I love your outlook. Theres no reason for anyone to be pressured to lose baby weight in some obscenely short amount of time! Its a process. Besides, Drew (and yourself) is probably enjoying her child and taking care of its needs.

    Love those earrings Nora :)

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  2. Well said! This is my mantra word for word.
    Let's shout it from the rooftops! I get so annoyed with all this hurry up and lose weight and get back to pre-baby weight talk that the "industry" puts out there. It is so frustrating and demeaning to women/mothers.

    I applaud you! Rock your cute outfit and hold those babies tighter!!;)

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  3. You are gorgeous and it's so ridiculous that society/pop culture expects women to bounce back so quickly and then judges them when they don't! LOVE that cute & cozy outfit :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  4. Celebrities probably work out 10 hours a day or something crazy like that so they can lose the baby weight in no time. It's not realistic at all, but hey, that's probably what happens when you have millions of dollars and nothing else to do.

    Don't put any pressure on yourself...you look amazing!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    Datevitation Giveaway!

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  5. Great post Nora. I think the pressure on women to "bounce back" after pregnancy is ridiculous. Your body has essentially gone through a traumatic event and needs time to heal! As long as you feel healthy and happy and your kids are the same, who cares? You look fantastic, and I love your cozy layers:)

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  6. I think the whole celeb thing about how fast they got their body back after baby is ridiculous. You body changed for a reason and especially if you are nursing you need to let nature take its course.
    You are looking pretty celeb like in this cute little outfit you are sporting today by the way
    Brett

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  7. Well I think you look fabulous and the sweater with the stripes is perfect! And those earrings are just darling! I feel like I struggle a bit with weight all the time and I've never even had a kid so GO YOU!

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  8. Here here! My daughter is two, and I still haven't gotten to my pre-baby weight. I'm 7 lb over, so hopefully I'll get there soon, but still. You're doing great. No need to strive to be Heidi Klum with her unrealistic weight loss, like you said. And high five to Drew Barrymore!

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  9. Lurv this sweater! It looks so cozy!
    And you look amazing, and you ARE amazing, no matter when you had your baby!

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  10. The writers of that article probably don't have a sweet new baby in their life- you definitely have the better deal. Its okay to feel down sometimes, of course, but like you said, your body has done some remarkable things!

    And of course, I love your outfit, per usual :)

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  11. I think you look fantastic! You are right - your body is amazing for what it did to bring those beautiful children into your life, so that is what matters most!

    And you look so cute today - I love sweaters with leggings and boots!!

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  12. I really love this look. An oversized sweater with leggings is one of my favorite looks, and I really love how you layered yours.
    Meredith
    createthatoutfit.com

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  13. I like your way of thinking. I think you look great now! I think you need to be pleased with your progress even though you know you want to go further. You can do it! I didn't have a baby and I still beat myself up too.

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  14. Oh. Baby weight. The worst feeling. Buuuuut I think you look absolutely amazing! And I love your attitude. After my daughter (and third pregnancy), it seemed to take FOREVER to lose the weight (I was 170 pounds FOREVER). I tried exercising more, cutting out all junk and fast food, no more soda, drinking fruit smoothies (homemade) for all meals and nothing worked. Finally I gave up. And the weight just kinda went away. Keep up whatever it is you are doing now because you are one hot mama!

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  15. You look great, Nora, and your hair is getting really long.

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  16. That article sounds totally ludicrous. On top of everything else (like why it should be such a bad thing for a woman to be any particular size or shape?), it neglects to acknowledge that some like Heidi Klum has the money, lifestyle, and resources to making fitness and appearance her full time job!

    Interestingly, MC and I posted today about the dumb myths perpetuated among women about what we should look like. He for one (and I fully agree) thinks age brings out the beauty in a woman, and I think if more guys spoke up about liking a few laugh lines and a few healthy pounds to put their arms around, women might just shut up about it more (especially the ones who write articles about celebrities!).

    P.S. YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL!!!

    http://dresseduplikealady.com

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  17. oh yeah? well heidi's kids aren't nearly as cute as yours. so there :) love ya NB! and for the record, you're the hottest mom i know.

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  18. Nora! dear! You look great for having a baby within the year. All of those others have personal trainers and dieticians to keep them in shape or they are willowy twigs to begin with (that type that never gains EVER). You are right. What you see as what you are doing is PERFECT. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK. Your personality is perfect. :D

    Ps. be sure and see my post tomorrow, k? tell Megan.

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  19. Wonderful post! You look wonderful and so does Drew Barrymore. And so does Heidi Klum. Because you all look like yourselves and if that includes losing baby weight immediately, great! And if it doesn't, great!

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  20. What a great post! We are all way too hard on ourselves after childbirth, and the publicity around celebrities and their weight loss stories doesn't help. But I think you look amazing and beautiful!

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  21. What a wonderful attitude to take...yes, your body HAS done amazing things and it is perfect however you are comfortable with it. You (both) are beautiful inside AND out.

    Btw, posted the recipe today, sorry but won't be commenting much for a while, at least until med stuff is straightened out.

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  22. Yes, this is a great attitude!!! Good for you. Celebrities aren't even real.

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  23. Preach on girl - you look fab in this cozy look!

    XO
    Pearls & Paws

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  24. LOVE that sweater and your boots. The stripes underneath look fabulous. So much pressure on stars to lose weight right after their pregnancy. It's crazy!
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  25. I love your outfit, and I think you look great. Seriously, if I hadn't been reading your blog all this time, I never would have guessed that you'd had a baby in the last year because you definitely don't look like you have any extra weight. People get crazy about losing baby weight. I mean, some people I know still claim to have the baby weight even when their kid is 8 years old, and in that case the weight doesn't have anything to do with the kid, but rushing weight loss can be dangerous. There's nothing wrong with just being healthy and losing the weight, if there is even any that needs to be lost, as your body sees fit!

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  26. Girl my baby is FIVE YEARS OLD and I still haven't lost the baby fat! I know how frustrating it is, but please know that while you may not feel your best, but you look AMAZING!

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  27. Nice look. I haven´t had a baby yet but it is hard to lose weight on a normal basis I imagine is worst after having a baby. We don´t have to be perfect, we just have to be healthy and love ourselves.
    http://thirtysomethingchic.wordpress.com/

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  28. i feel kinda stupid i didn't know drew barrymore even had a baby. nora, you're looking fantastic in your sweater with the striped blouse and boots! happy friday. :)

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  29. I hear you loud and clear! Sometimes the mass media/pop culture makes losing the baby weight seem like a contest! My baby is nearly four months old, and I have been doing my best to not put unfair pressure on myself to "bounce back." I'd rather spend time with my baby than spend six hours a day at the gym. :)

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  30. I think you look fabulous! It's better to be healthy than to take drastic measures just to be skinny.
    p.s., I adore your boots!

    Kate xo petite-adventures.blogspot.ca

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  31. We are all guilty of living for "when" instead of enjoying the "now". It's not "when" we have what we want, it's enjoy the "now". Easier said than done. You are young, gorgeous and your body is amazing. Love the stripes under your sweater and great boots!! Dawn suitcase vignettes xo

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