Sunday, October 14, 2012

inspiration monday: mood swings and men

the inspiration
pippa middleton
megan bird



dress, jacket, earrings ~ F21
boots ~ vintage, thrifted
bracelets ~ garage sale

nora bird






dress and jacket~ H&M
boots~ vintage, thrifted

when the kids were very small, i made a conscious decision to try my darnedest to not yell at them. as soon as i made that decision, it was actually really eye opening. not that i was screaming at the top of my lungs every day, but i tend to be a very emotional person already, and there were some days where i got a little loud. when i stopped, i noticed that my kids responded to me so much better when i was calm and rational. now, i'm not saying that i have been calm and rational for the last 7 1/2 years, but i've been pretty good.

the other day, i was having a very bad day...like the worst pms day you can imagine. it was 7:15 am and the kids needed to be out the door to school and of course they had misplaced their homework, their coats, their shoes, and pretty much everything else they needed in order to go to school. i lost my temper, and may have raised my voice a bit. i still didn't yell, per say, but my patience was tested. and in a moment of trying to lighten the mood, i said to chris, "can you imagine what i'm going to be like when i start going through menopause?" to which he replied, "yeah, i wanted to talk to you about that."

and then we brought the kids to school, and i got to sit and dwell on that comment of his ~ seething because who is he to tell me to control my hormonal mood?? of course when the kids got out of the car, i looked at him with laser eyes, and all he said was, "i just wanted you to be aware that you raised your voice. i know you said you weren't going to do that, so i wanted to make you aware." ok, not as bad as i thought, but i was still shocked that after the many years we have been together, he still doesn't know not to say stuff like that to me when i'm already at my worst.

oh men, you will never learn.

on that note, my mood swings are over....for this month, at least!

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xoxo,
two birds

36 comments:

  1. megan I adore your jacket!
    Great week :)

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  2. if men only knew what hormones were like!! love the leather jackets and you both look great in that color!

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  3. You both look gorgeous and sexy. Maybe I should stop telling you this because you may get tired of hearing it. It is my opinion and I love both outfits. I know exactly what you mean Megan. I don't know how you don't yell. Great for you..I'm amazed. I should try this. I might implode though...dawn

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  4. Haha....it's true, men just sometimes don't realize how lightly they need to tread when it's that time of the month. I usually like Ian to be up front with me when there is something bothering him, with the exception of one week out of the month when he needs to sit back and let me be a crazy b****....totally a reasonable request, right? Haha. You both look so great, you are really rocking the ankle boots! You know I love those! :)

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  5. Oh my husband has said many a thing to me during that time of the month that makes me want to go "really? You're picking a fight with me NOW?" I am like you - I tend to raise my voice when I really don't need to and I am trying to work on that for if/when we have kids, but it is hard some days!!

    LOVE both your outfits, you both matched up with her pretty darn well I have to say!!

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  6. Ladies, you look gorgeous! What a great goal to not yell. Very difficult, but it's good to strive for. Good for you!

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  7. Sometimes they really do have the gift of saying just the wrong thing at just the wrong time, don't they? Anyway, both of you look fab in your pretty blue dresses and sassy leather jackets and boots!

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  8. Haha oh men! Even if it's not PMS, I think they also go through times where they get very moody too.

    I love both of your outfits! You guys nailed the inspiration photos and look so edgy in your jackets/ankle boots.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart
    Bubble Necklace Giveaway!

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  9. LOVE both of your looks. I LOVE the shade of blue, and the leather jackets totally make the looks.

    xo,
    Terry

    http://terrys-two-cents.blogspot.com

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  10. i love the blue dress you ladies are wearing. it's such a fab color. there's nothing like a dress, some booties and leather. thanks for choosing such a fun one!

    and i hear you on the yelling. i need to stop. because i think i might yell everyday. i feel bad about it. and yeah, sometimes men just say the wrong thing :(

    http://spinning-threads.blogspot.com

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  11. Oh Men. I know... my boyfriend has done that too... but he is learning when not to say stuff at times. Its like when you are angry about it and then they say it, just makes the situation a whole lot worse. Sigh....

    Oh. I love these looks, they look great on the both of you. I just purchased my pleather jacket this weekend and I a pumped!

    Sara
    http://seventwentysomethings.blogspot.com

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  12. one of my favorite looks from you both! xo beautiful

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  13. The blue looks amazing on both of you!

    And men... sigh. My husband is still clueless after all these years as well.

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  14. wow, blue is a great color on you :)

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  15. I want to steal both of your jackets! I love that you two picked the same color blue dress to wear!

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  16. Amazing jackets! I just love this look so much! A cute blue feminine dress and a tough jacket is just HEAVEN! And men... oh yes men... they love to push your buttons sometimes and it doesn't make sense when clearly your buttons have already been pushed (if that makes sense lol!)

    Happy Monday!

    Rachel’s Lookbook

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  17. I see the sister ESP is hard at work again! You both look fabulous in blue with black leather!

    Don't be too hard on yourself; you are a Very aware Mom...and can you imagine the pressure on the kid's that would come with having a 'perfect' Mom? You may not feel perfect but I guarantee you are perfect for them! As for men...I always recommended feeding them an Ex-lax brownie or two then lecturing them about squirming and taking up the bathroom; it might not give them insight but it'll amuse you, and isn't that the most important thing? ;-)

    (Btw, I need to know if you're vegan or if you use some dairy products.)

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  18. i'm not married, but men will say the craziest things. i always give the guy i'm dating the laser eyes! hahaha you guys styled everything beautifully!
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

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  19. totally loving leather jackets these days!!

    xo,
    Sandy
    Sandy a la Mode

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  20. P.S. For some reason your comments always go to my spam folder? I have to check every day and move them. Weird!

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  21. I hope you ladies have a great week.

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  22. my husband constantly puts his foot in his mouth despite my constant warnings to leave me the hell alone when I am pmsing. Men will seriously never learn

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  23. you both did a great job
    i love the cobalt dress you all are wearing
    that moto jacket is fabulous
    brett

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  24. I'd have felt cross with him as well! He could have phrased that SOOOOOOOO much better (or not said it then, or said it at all!) Hey, you both look lovely in this shade of blue! I went for a darker shade too! Lovely!

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  25. Both of your dresses look great.

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  26. hi !

    you guys, i love your blog, your posts and your humor. for some strange reason (my body and it's age) I just look horrid in the pics I take. I used to look great (in my 40's) but not anymore. crap.

    so I am just commenting and reading from now on. No more promises or hope of joining Inspiration Monday unless I suddenly get a wave of craziness or something. lol

    ...maybe if i had a better camera (Hey Santa!!)

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  27. and yes, as Rebecca above me has also been smart and nice, both of your dresses look great. I especially love Megan's garagedoor backdrop. no really! I do, I think it is cool.

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  28. You both look super, so cute that you both wore the same shade of blue :)
    Men just can't win, they're damned if they do and damned if they don't! I get so irritated if my fella comments on my mood but equally irritated if he ignores it!

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  29. Love love love this look - the blue & black are awesome together! And men are definitely clueless sometimes...I hate when my husband thinks I'm being moody, haha :)

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

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  30. You both look great..and just like the inspiration. Meagan love your bomber. Men are always clueless...lol
    Heathersthriftycloset.blogspot.com

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  31. You girls are too awesome! Love this inspiration outfit!
    Meredith
    createthatoutfit.com

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  32. let's talk about how cool both birds look in their motorcycle jackets, & i fierce thrifted boots. it's moments when men, or women say such comments that make me feel like backhanding them. i don't. part of me just sort of wants to. of course, sometimes i want smack myself too, when i do or say the wrong things.

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  33. You girls look sooooo good!!! im dying over here over both your jackets. i want one so bad! totally wish id joined in on this one! i will.. soon!haha i keep forgetting but so wanna join in the fun! xxx

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  34. Love your rocker-vibes and blue dresses!

    And no, men never learn.

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  35. Love both of the dresses you chose - the colours are stunning!

    Kate - petite-adventures.blogspot.ca

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